Through our hashtag community #This_Is_Motherhood we feature mums who share the truth about motherhood, and how to prioritise self-care on a more regular basis so we can live more happy and fulfilling lives.
We we’re very excited to interview Luella & Rose because of her passion and creativity, she shares her deeply personal story as a lifestyle content creator/blogger and mental health nursing student, and mother of 2 (almost 3!).
If you could sum up the transition into motherhood in one word, what would it be and why?
Surprising, or unexpected (I know, that’s two words!!). Even as someone who desperately wanted a baby, had no preexisting mental health concerns and had a very present and supportive family, the transition totally knocked me back. Significantly, it also didn’t happen immediately, which is why I struggled to quantify or seek help with my challenges when they did arise. It was about a year or so later, a bit less perhaps, before my anxiety and panic really began to kick off and so – not having had a great deal of experience in this area – I wasn’t able to immediately attribute this to motherhood. This, therefore meant I struggled more greatly and for longer than I should have.
If there is one thing you could tell your pre-parent self, what would it be and why?
Be kind to yourself and take time for you. Also, try not to listen to other’s opinions – even those of family members, if you have someone who is particularly keen on “helping’ – as sometimes people with even the best intentions can confuse or perpetuate self-doubt.
What is your one tip for dealing with stressful situations? Perspective; it’s all about perspective.
Find the silver lining, or remove yourself and refocus. Often times taking a step back will help you see things more clearly, and what once seemed like a big deal actually won’t be.
What is one piece of advice you would want to give a new mum?
Find yourself a network. If you’re lucky enough to have lots of friends who already have kids then that’s great, but if not then make an effort to find some. There really is solidarity in motherhood. It’s taken me many hours of sitting through not-my-speed baby groups to find what works for me/us and to meet like-minded women. It helps to start out in a place where you already know you have a similar and genuine interest (like, if you already practice yoga than find a baby yoga class) and know that socialising does get easier once you’re out of the foggy newborn stage. Oh – and ask for help! Most people genuinely want to be supportive and like feeling needed, but they can’t know what you need unless you tell them.
A group of mums sharing their experiences on pregnancy, post-birth, breastfeeding, work-life balance, and more.