We’ve all heard the ranting that goes on when someone dares refer to any of us as ‘just a mom’ most of which has been said by ourselves.
This is not that post.
My eldest had a playdate yesterday with her bff and my youngest was devastated that she couldn’t go with too.
Instead I tried to turn it into a ‘Mommy and Me’ day. We went and chose some new fake flowers for my hallway vase, then I took her out to their favourite ice-cream parlour where she had a ‘Princess waffle’. What’s that you ask? It’s 1/2 a waffle decorated with pink ice-cream, pink sweets, pink edible glitter and pinkstrawberry sauce – sickly sweet and a real treat that I only indulge them in occasionally. I even gave her a R5 coin to get a bouncy ball out of the vending machine, something I never do!
After that we went home, I painted her nails (pink) then let her have 1/2 an hour on the iPad (those awful YouTube videos of other kids opening Kinder eggs! Why? For the love of all that is holy … why do they love them so much?)
We then made a fruit salad, and I even let loose a little and let her do the washing up (under supervision of course, remember my views on Chores For My Children), while waiting for daddy to come home with the eldest. We then went to a local pizza restaurant for dinner. It was a lovely day actually.
At some point in the day, I think around the nail painting, she said to me, “Mommy, when I get big can you teach me to be a mommy?”
“Why? I’m sure you will be a great mommy – after you’ve finished school and become independent – you can’t be a mommy before that. And you must have a job, what do you want to be?” I’m pretty sure she was rolling her eyes at the familiar lecture once again.
“Just a mommy,” was her honest and straight-forward reply, no hesitations whatsoever.
I’ve covered this child and her admiration for my ‘job’ before … you can read about that here Aspirations Of My 3 Year Old.
Even though she thinks all the things I do for her and her sister, and our family are the greatest achievements ever, for which I am very humbled, there is so much more to me as a person than just being their mum. When we’re deep in the trenches with babies and toddlers and nappies, and potty training and push-chairs and baby bags and bottles and, and, and … it’s very easy for us to get lost, to lose a part of ourselves. I feel lately that I’m finally coming up for air, I’m starting to reclaim a piece of me, and remember who I am. Me. Not the mommy. Me.
Here are a few other facts about Me, and achievements of mine that I am proud of and hope that one day she will also see:
- I am intelligent but never furthered my education after A’Level.
- I struggled with hip pain for nearly 16 years, birthed both my babies naturally and then had both hips replaced within four months of each other at the age of 33.
- I love writing, thankfully this blog is giving me the opportunity to fulfill that love in my own way.
- I love reading – embarrassingly my favourite genre is historical romance!
- I love TV drama shows, especially if Shonda Rhimes is behind them!
- I love wine – surprise surprise, or maybe not.
- I smoked for 5 years then gave it up.
- I was a ‘goodie-goodie’ at school and was even Head Girl, and Captain of the hockey & swimming teams (even with the hip pain).
- I wish I was a better cook.
- I hate guns.
- I have a very dry and sarcastic sense of humour with a ‘healthy’ dose of b*tchy thrown in.
- My husband and I can live almost anywhere in the world and still choose to stay in Africa because it’s in out blood.
- My husband can make me smile no matter how mad at him I am! I hate that.
- My sister is the funniest person I know. I can’t wait for September when I get to see her again. (Sorry to the rest of my family, but you all know it’s true.)
- I love travelling, mostly road trips.
- I have dived in the Red Sea, Sharp el Sheikh and would love to do it again.
So you see, there is so much more to all of us than even our children know. So much more than they see anyway.
What I realised typing this up is that a lot of this (not all) is reflected in my Pinterest Boards. So maybe if you want to know me better, come check out some of the stuff I pin.
Funny enough, my most popular board by far is my Mom Humour Board, it seems to have struck a chord with many, many people. Hope to see you there.
So with all that said, I’d love to know more about you. If you get time to comment, please share something special about you that makes you more than ‘just a mom’ … or dad.