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When we are little we don’t really like the constant advice we get from our mothers, at times we even find it annoying. It gets worse when we enter puberty, accepting that someone else knows better is nearly impossible when you are a teenager. But as we get older those pieces of advice passed on to us by our mothers seem to get louder and louder. I can hear myself, almost daily starting a sentence with – ‘As my mother would say…’.
In this article we will try to recap some of the most valuable lessons our mother’s have taught us, that you might have lost track of during the years, but that you children definitely need to hear.
Honesty is the best policy
I still remember my mom running after me around our home yelling, ” Liar liar pants on fire!”, I felt so ashamed. Later on you get to understand why honesty is so important. When we don’t tell the truth is presses upon us making us feel constantly stressed and in fear that everything will come out in the open. Telling the truth even when you don’t feel comfortable is essential for our mental health and it can be quite liberating. So you see, your mom knew what she was talking about even way back when, and now it is time for you to transfer that knowledge to your offspring.
Honesty is the best policy – Photo by Pezibear on Pixabay
You don’t have to do everything alone
For most, asking for help is not a comfortable feeling, this means thet a lot of us try to do things on our own. But it is important to acknowledge that you cannot be on top of everything all the time. So if you are a working mom in a big city like London chances are you won’t be able to help your children with all the subjects. So instead of feeling like a failure, opt for trusted tutoring professionals in London, that way your kids will get the help they need, and you will still be a mom your mother would be proud of. Our strength lies in the fact that we are able to recognize when we need to ask for help, and your children need to be aware of this, otherwise they will try to manage everything alone and the sheer burden of that is enormous.
Be free spirited
The freedom to be who we are is something our mothers have strived to instill in us. Mine always let me explore my surroundings, and if I would get accidentally hurt, there was always a lesson to be drawn there. So let your kids be free to find out new things, to go through life not weighed by fear or insecurities. It is that freedom of life that will turn them into great people.
Be free spirited – Photo by Riala on Pixabay
Be happy for others
As kids we sometimes felt jealous that someone got something and we didn’t, and at the time our moms would say, “Be happy for them!”. Yes, this was not the easiest emotion to bring up at that particular moment, by now that we are mothers it might be one of the most important lessons we can teach our children. Being able to feel happy about someone else’s good fortune is the best possible way to go through life, you get rid of all the bad emotions like envy or jealousy and can focus only on the good things.
You are beautiful just the way you are. How many times has your mother said that to you, and how many times have you said that to your kids. Yes the typical response is, ” You have to say that, you are my mom!”, but trust me children can hear you, and that sentence remains with them for life. If you love yourself you will be able to love others as well. Self-confidence is something that a child has to learn early on, and we can be grateful to our moms for ours.
Love yourself – Photo by Greyerbaby on Pixabay
Be brave enough to admit you are wrong
Some people are willing to stick to their guns until the bitter end, even when they know they are completely wrong. This is something our moms tried hard to change in us. There is nothing weak in admitting you have made a mistake, you can learn from it and move on. And that is a lesson that we should transfer onto our children.
Kindness is a virtue
Be kind don’t tease your younger brother. Well that’s a sentence I heard quite a lot, and it is one I repeat quite often. Being kind means having empathy and understanding the situation someone else is in, it is one of the most valuable of human emotions. By teaching us to be kind our mothers have made us better people, and we owe it to our children to do the same for them.
So there you are, these are just some of the lessons we got for free from our mothers, it is up to us to transfer them onto our children hoping that they will become the great people we know they can be.